Turn on the app If you feel unsafe hold your finger on the screen. Once arrived to a safe location, enter your code. If your finger leaves the screen without entering the code law enforcement is notified and your location is tracked through your phone.
reblogging bc this seems really useful
This is very important!!!
Respecting a survivor’s sense of self is really the biggest thing- and as always, Support and Affirm Worth.
I hope you guys are having a fabulous Wednesday, and as always, take care of yourselves <3
Please, please read, comprehend, and never forget this. It could drastically change how a survivor lives the rest of their life after an attack. It could also be the line between being an asshole and a true support system for someone.
A perfect example of “desert flower” fetishization/exotification. Women of color are always shown as “others”, they’re seen as women who have to use their sexuality to save themselves (or worse, as people who are just inherently sexual by their mere existence).
We’re putting these sexualized images of women of color into cartoons meant for children, essentially brainwashing them to grow into adults who fetishize non-white women. Gross.
i really hate the attitude a lot of men have about how women are so different and mysterious and hard to understand, as if women are some kind of foreign species and not fellow human beings and then complain about women being unapproachable and ‘prude’
you don’t get to put me on a pedestal and then complain about me being out of reach
"you don’t get to put me on a pedestal and then complain about me being out of reach”
I’ve never heard wiser words.
50 Shades of Abuse Flyer - Canada
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Okay. I understood all the flack Twilight got for being an abusive relationship. Because it was and it was being read by a very young and impressionable audience. But ffs, 50 Shades is an ADULT NOVEL. Iit is about a BDSM couple. Which - newsflash - do exist. It is a completely consensual form of dominate/submissive sex play. The whole concept of domestic violence and abuse is that one side exerts control over an unwilling victim. I don’t recall Anastasia, or whatever she’s called, protesting to Christian’s form of sex. If I remember correctly, she quite enjoyed it! So before you condemn a work of romanticizedfiction, actually consider it’s audience and remember that they are mature and capable enough to know the difference between reality and fiction.
so i guess you didn’t read the parts where he coerces her and the part where he continues after she has used her safeword and acts like a fucking creep whenever they aren’t having sex
it is the worst possible introduction to BDSM i could imagine
i know my shit okay
im hoping the people defending this book are 1. never getting into BDSM 2. not currently into BDSM 3. havent read the book bc i dont want to believe anyone is that fucking stupid
knowledge on you right now.
Wanna know the BDSM mantra? Safe, sane, consensual.
So let me explain why this book was devoid of all three of these things.
Safe - In the first few chapters of the novel, Christian Grey tracks Ana’s cell phone to find her at a club. Takes her home when she’s drunk, changes her when she’s so intoxicated she doesn’t remember him doing so,and informs her he will be keeping tabs on her for her own benefit. This is not the behaviour of a respectable Dominant. This is the behaviour of a power hungry, abusive asshole who really can’t take no for an answer.
Sane - One of the most important parts of BDSM is aftercare. Scenes can be extremely traumatizing and intense for the submissive. Aftercare is anything from petting to cuddling to holding to sweet talking, whatever degree of gentleness a bottom would need to pull them out of “subspace”. How does Christian provide aftercare? He submits Ana to a traumatizing first time spanking experience AND THEN FUCKING LEAVES. AND GETS MAD THAT SHE DIDN’T TELL HIM SHE WAS UPSET. He’s the one who should fucking know better! That, again, is not the act of a responsible Dominant. It’s the act of a selfish abuser.
Consensual - Did I mention he undressed her when she was belligerently drunk? Tracked her phone to locate her? He also buys her a new car despite her saying no countless times. Now, consent is important for any kind of sexual activity at all. Consent means informed, consent means enthusiastic. Informed, enthusiastic consent. This is crucial in a BDSM setting. Scenes can be extremely intense, especially for the bottom. What is Christian’s form of obtaining consent? Handing Ana a fucking contract highlighting all the things he wants to do her asshole and asking her to sign it. She was a virgin (Don’t even get me fucking started.) who had never before been exposed to BDSM. Entering in that kind of relationship takes a gargantuan amount of trust and knowledge so you know exactly what you’re getting into. Not reading a list of kinks on a piece of paper and signing your rights to say no away. Christian didn’t offer her resources, he didn’t offer her information. He gave her an ultimatum. That is not the sort of consent a responsible Dom/me would seek from their submissive.
Fuck. This. book. It’s written in a shitty way, it’s a terrible example of a BDSM relationship (ask anybody already involved in the lifestyle and watch them go blue in the face just thinking about it), which is already faced with enough prejudice and misunderstand, and it romanticizes and glorifies abuse.
And this post is going into my bookmarks, because it is beautiful.
HEY LOOK EVERYTHING I HATE ABOUT 50 SHADES SERIES IN ONE
ooo, someone actually broke down the Safe Sane Consensual thing and how 50 Shades DOESN’T EVEN TOUCH IT WITH A 10 FOOT POLE.
I got so tired of explaining why what I liked was different from this piece of shit. Thank you.
Bless this post
i have read fics written by 17 year old virgins with a better grasp on a healthy bdsm relationship then this series.
String Theory says that all the notes on a vibrating string correspond to a particle. That to an electron is actually a rubber band; a very tiny rubber band. but if you twang this rubber band and the rubber band vibrates at a different frequency, it turns into a quark. And you twang it again and it turns into a neutrino. So, how many musical notes are there? An infinite. How many musical notes are there on a string? An infinite number. And that may explain why we have so many subatomic particles. They are nothing but musical notes.
So, physics are nothing but the laws of harmonies on a string. Chemistry is nothing but the melodies you can play on vibrating strings. And the mind of God, the mind of God that Einstein worked on for the last 30 years of his life, the mind of God would be cosmic music. Cosmic music resonating through 11 dimensional hyperspace.
—- Micho Kaku, Theoretical Physicist (via madmaudlingoes)
I LOVE STRING THEORY OKAY
I basically think of it as, like, the universe sang itself into existence.
Some people say the universe is held together by strings.
I don’t have a God-complex, but
If I pulled a certain sequence
Of nanoscopic fibers,
Could I manipulate the stars?
I’m just wondering
If I make Andromeda collapse, or
Push Sirius past the event horizon of
The nearest black hole, or
Force the Eagle Nebula
To birth enough stars
To paint your face on the sky,
Or annihilate the world in a barrage of
Fire and space debris,
Would you notice me then?
Because I’m just about out of theories.
"String Theory" - A. Helms
(In related news, guess who’s getting published!)
using nothing more than newton’s laws of gravitation, we astronomers can confidently predict that several billion years from now our home galaxy, the milky way, will merge with our neighbouring galaxy, andromeda. because the distances between the stars are so great compared to their sizes, few if any stars in either galaxy will actually collide.
any life on the worlds of that far off future should be safe, but they will be treated to an amazing billion-year-long lightshow.
a dance of a half a trillion stars, to music first heard on one little world, by a man who had but one true friend.
This art is absolutely breath taking
it’s kinda like beyblades
I don’t care what kind of blog I have I will blog this no matter what.
"Craving sensation: feeling unreal" was such a huge part of the beginning of my relapse. I was convinced that people in front of me didn’t even exist and I kept touching things and trying to feel sensation. I’m reblogging because I know that that was so horrifying for me and I never want anyone else to go through it.
In case someone needs to see thisJust in case this can help someone. Some suggestions also seem harmful (eating a hot pepper really hurts!!!) but steps to feeling better and not self harming is most important. Sending you love and light
STOP SCROLLING! Please reblog this vitally important information because at least one of your followers is self-harming. Thank you!
I need this
I’ve used some of these and they really do help! Reblogging forever simply because this could help save someone
Hello lovelies! I’m trying to raise room and board money for university next semester, so I’m opening up commissions and editorial services! I’ll write you poetry, fanfiction, angel stuff, original stories of your design, your OCs and self insertion, and edit your term paper on top of it all. Please take a second to see if you would be interested and signal boost, I’m excited to get this project off the ground. Blessings!
Prose and Fanfiction
500 words and under~ $3.00
Anything longer than two thousand words will be a (negotiable, of course) higher price that will depend on the commission, but you’ll be getting much more detail, character development, and world building.
Sexually explicit works will cost $1.50 more per length bracket. (Note: The author reserves the right to refuse any adult request, although she will happily work with you to reach a mutually agreeable product)
$3.00 for every thirty lines.
Baby poems run fifteen lines apiece and cost $1.50, and drabbles are 100 words of prose that also run for $1.50
I am a creative writing major with journalism experience who is currently employed as a writing tutor and editor at her university. I’m happy to edit your fiction, essays, and personal statements for grammar, sentence structure, flow, and citations. (Note: I am offering to clean your paper up, but I cannot write it for you. I can, however, work my best magic on whatever you bring me) Cost is $1.00 per double spaced page. Works over ten pages subject to additional fees.
What fandoms will you write for? Any I am well enough acquainted with the source material to do justice to, and I consume a lot of pop culture, so try me. A sampling of fandoms include Sherlock, Doctor Who, Welcome to Nightvale, Hannibal, Harry Potter, Pirates of the Caribbean, Star Trek, Avatar: The Last Airbender, Marvel and DC (comics or movieverse) Lord of the Rings, The X-Files, Supernatural, Ancient History, Classical Literature, Mythology, The Bible, Disney, and many more. If I am not well versed, I can research it.
*Will you write my OC/ship/original story idea? You betcha! You bring you ideas to the table and I’ll spin something from them..
*How does the commissions process work? Clients may get in touch with me through my tumblr askbox and, if they like, move conversation to my private e-mail from there. I’m here to cater to your whims, so we’ll spend plenty of time discussing exactly what it is you would like, what the final product will look like, how long the project will take me to finish, and how much it will cost. I can work with anything you bring me; a ship, a plot idea, a theme, an emotion, ect. After the client is pleased with what they’re purchasing, I will accept payment through Paypal and keep you up to date on the writing process as I whip up the stuff of your dreams. (Note: clients must have a working e-mail address in order to commission me)
*How does the editing process work? Once we’ve discussed what sort of help you need and you’ve decided on purchasing an editing session, upload your paper to Google drive and share it with me through my email. I will then mark all over your paper and in the margins and return it to you in an expedient time from for revision. I’ll be happy to answer any questions you have about my notes and work with you on the selection until you are satisfied.
*How long do commissions take? Generally, within 48 hours of payment, very rarely over one week.
*How will I get my commission? Email or Tumblr, whichever is most desirable to you. Sometimes I might ask permission to post your commission to my blog to show off, but that it always at your discretion and ultimately your decision.
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